The Four Agreements - 1st Agreement: Be Impeccable with Your Word

“What you dream, what you feel, and what you really are will be manifested through the word.”

What is the first agreement?

The first agreement is to be impeccable with your words. This means speaking with integrity and always telling the truth. It is the message you present to others and the one you deliver to yourself, which, if spoken positively, creates a more peaceful existence.

During pregnancy, you may encounter frustrations and disappointments from those closest to you, and you may even feel these emotions within yourself. It’s essential to speak positively and honestly, even in those moments. Why? Because what you put out into the world comes back to you. It may be challenging to follow such a principle with hormones and heightened sensitivity, but it is crucial to your overall experience.

Growing up, you may have heard that words are powerful, and be careful how you use them. This is because words can have a lifelong impact, especially words heard during childhood that was meant to tear us down. When we believe these words, it negatively impacts us as adults.

Adulthood has many circumstances, and for some, that includes pregnancy. Now imagine continuing to express these words during your pregnancy. If any of them used during this time aren’t valid or negative, then you are using these words against yourself, which is not impeccable. Hearing negative words may cause us to have negative thoughts that linger. It is vital to remember that what we say drives what we and others feel.

What is a takeaway from this agreement?

One area where being impeccable with your word is helpful during pregnancy is in the words you use. How you communicate with others can have a profound impact, so it’s essential to be mindful of your language. Speaking ill of others or spewing harmful language into someone else’s life affects you by creating a chain reaction. If someone returns that negative energy, it can impact you mentally and physically, which may hurt your unborn child. When you are not well, neither are they.

What does NOT being impeccable with your words look like:

• ⦁ You tear yourself and others down with you.

• ⦁ You carry the mindset of judgment with yourself and others.

• ⦁ Gossip about others.

It would help if you reframed any of the above ways of thinking. Your words also follow you in whatever phase of life you’re in. Telling yourself things like “I’m stupid and don’t know anything” when you’re a first-time expecting mother is unreasonable and will likely make you feel small. As silly as it may seem, speaking life into yourself and repeating words like, “I can do this! I am the best at what I do” can positively impact you and shift your energy.

Applying the four agreements to your life is a game-changer. It will improve your pregnancy experience, quality of life, and the lives you bring into this world. Once you start being impeccable with your word, others will trust you more and open up to you. This creates deeper relationships built on mutual respect. The connections necessary for the support you will need once your baby arrives. If you want to make lasting changes, consider adopting these four agreements as guiding principles. Want to learn more? Check out our blog for posts about the other three agreements.